Category Archives: Attachment

Porn Addiction Affects Women, Too!

Posted on August 8, 2022 by roubicekandthacker

“Porn is a guy thing.”

Believe it or not, this is a common belief about pornography. The unfortunate truth is that it’s not just a “guy” thing. Women consume and deal with compulsion, or addiction, to pornography as well.  Continue reading →

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Connections in Recovery

Posted on October 19, 2018 by roubicekandthacker

“Your connections to all the things around you literally define who you are.” – Aaron D. O’Connell, Physicist, Creator of the first Quantum Machine Connection is the key to both overcoming addiction and establishing trustworthy relationships. One cannot overcome pornography … Continue reading →

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Pornography, Sex, and the Pleasure Systems in the Brain

Posted on August 20, 2018 by roubicekandthacker

Dopamine.  That’s a word that gets thrown around a lot in recovery circles for pornography /sex addiction.  Why is this tiny endocrinological, neurochemical compound such a big deal? It’s a big deal in recovery because it affects the part of … Continue reading →

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Running On Empty No More: A Book for Transforming Relationships

Posted on January 9, 2018 by roubicekandthacker

I just finished a wonderful book I can’t wait to tell you about called Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships With Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children, by Dr Jonice Webb. Running on Empty No More is … Continue reading →

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Angry Birds & Killer Bees (How to Talk to Children About Sex)

Posted on September 15, 2017 by roubicekandthacker

Talking to kids about sex is an essential, yet difficult task for all parents. What complicates this challenge further is the advancement of technology and the early exposure to pornography that is rampant in our day and age. Last year I … Continue reading →

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The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery

Posted on August 8, 2017 by roubicekandthacker

“She deserves a husband who is trustworthy, both when she is looking and when she’s unaware” (Life After Lust p.40, from the chapter What My Wife is Worth). Unfortunately, many of us recovering from sex addiction have made past choices that have … Continue reading →

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Am I Screwing Up My Kids? (Thoughts from a Parent in Recovery)

Posted on August 5, 2017 by roubicekandthacker

The more I learn about the origins of sexual addiction, the more I see how factors in childhood play a significant role. This helps me understand myself as a recovering addict but as a parent this responsibility can be frightening. If you’ve … Continue reading →

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New Release: Finding Peace Trauma Workbook (.99 Cents Through FRIDAY)

Posted on June 19, 2017 by roubicekandthacker

Today a powerful resource was published on Amazon called Finding Peace: A Workbook on Healing from Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse by Troy Love, LCSW. I had the privilege of endorsing this book so I can vouch for … Continue reading →

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The Healing Power of Accountability – VLOG

Posted on May 17, 2017 by roubicekandthacker

Accountability is an essential part of a successful recovery plan and yet so many people resist implementing it. Check out my recent vlog where I share about my experience with accountability and why it is such a powerful modality for healing. –Forest … Continue reading →

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Connected Sex: A Paradigm Shift for the Sexually Addicted

Posted on October 20, 2016 by roubicekandthacker

Sex is on my mind a lot these days. The reason for this is I’m preparing to teach a Human Sexuality class at Fresno State this weekend. I look forward to my time with future therapists, as we explore how sex … Continue reading →

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