Category Archives: Attachment

Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter


*This letter was originally posted on Protect Young Minds for Father’s Day of 2015. Please share this powerful piece with all fathers as we prepare to celebrate our essential role in the lives of our children. Happy Father’s Day! Dear … Continue reading

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Yes, You Can Fire Your Accountability Partner (New XXXChurch Article)


Successful recovery will not occur without a strong accountability relationship. Finding the right partner can be difficult and sometimes “firing” the wrong fit is a necessary step toward health. In my recent XXXChurch article, I shared “5 Reasons to Fire Your Accountability Partner“. … Continue reading

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Boundaries: The Key to Love


The topic of boundaries is important to both addicts and their partners in recovery. This topic can be confusing and challenging to many. Here is a helpful, simple video about the importance of boundaries. In it Brene Brown shares: “Boundaries … Continue reading

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Am I Codependent or Connected?


Since sexual addiction is an intimacy disorder, successful recovery necessitates learning to connect with oneself and others. Despite enormous difficulties, I have seen seemingly ruined relationships repaired. It is possible for many, even after betrayal, but it requires lots of work … Continue reading

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Learning and Unlearning the Skills of Self-Neglect


In the work I do with sexual addicts I often use the term “self-neglect”. It seems those of us in recovery are experts at neglecting our needs and emotions. When we look back at our childhoods, we see that we … Continue reading

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No Group, No Healing (New XXXChurch Article)


Today my article entitled “The Paradox of Pornography Addiction: What You Fear Most Will Heal You” was published on the XXXChurch blog. XXXChurch is certainly one of the major players in helping people find healing from pornography addiction and it … Continue reading

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Resisting Pornography: An Unexpected Success Strategy for All Ages


My friends at Protect Young Minds just put out an excellent article aimed at helping adolescents battle the temptation to look at pornography. What struck me in reading the article was that this is a powerful strategy for adults as well. … Continue reading

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Is Digital Adultery Poisoning Your Marriage?


I had the privilege of writing this piece on pornography addiction and how it harms relationships. Though it is from a Christian perspective, it contains practical tips for anyone struggling with with this issue, including partners. I would be honored … Continue reading

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A Connected Christmas: The Secret to Avoiding Auto-Pilot and Making the Holiday Meaningful


Christmas is almost here. It’s a day of celebration, gratitude, and connection….at least in theory. I desire these ideals yet too often find myself indulgent and disconnected. Vacations and holidays are historically hard for me. So often, self-care slumps, discipline … Continue reading

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Pursuing Peace When the World’s At War


Our world is in a frenzy of fear. Stories splash across our screens of both global and local terrorist attacks. We witness our world at war. Tragedies, in the forms of accidents and health risks, plague us. We witness a … Continue reading

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