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Connected Sex: A Paradigm Shift for the Sexually Addicted


Sex is on my mind a lot these days. The reason for this is I’m preparing to teach a Human Sexuality class at Fresno State this weekend. I look forward to my time with future therapists, as we explore how sex … Continue reading

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Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter


*This letter was originally posted on Protect Young Minds for Father’s Day of 2015. Please share this powerful piece with all fathers as we prepare to celebrate our essential role in the lives of our children. Happy Father’s Day! Dear … Continue reading

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The Pursuit of Addiction is the Path of Distrust


It is becoming clearer to me that the pursuit of addiction is the path of distrust. In moments of stress or distress, any numbing or self-destructive response is rooted in the belief that “I am unsafe and do not trust … Continue reading

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From Addiction to Connection: Radio Interview with “Carol the Coach” & Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C


Last night I had the privilege of being interviewed on live radio by “Carol the Coach“. Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, PCC, CSAT is a psychotherapist who hosts the informative show called “Sexual Addiction: Strength/Hope/Recovery“. Carol invited me to join her … Continue reading

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My Path Out of Porn Addiction: A Therapist’s Journey


When I recently wrote about my promotion to Clinical Director and the career journey that led me to this work I love to do, I omitted a significant piece of my history. We all have a back-story. It is ours … Continue reading

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Dear Porn-Addicted Parent


Have you read An Open Letter to My Porn-Watching Dad? Written by his daughter, these brutally honest words serve as a shocking reminder that pornography addiction affects more than just the consumer. For those living in pursuit of the “lie … Continue reading

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“From Under the Rock” by Forest Benedict, M.A., SATP-C, LifeSTAR of the Central Valley


“Taking some of these measures was like killing off part of me, they were so much against my natural inclinations.” (Sexaholics Anonymous, 2001, p. 167) The true story of Aron Ralston’s near-death experience in a canyoneering accident was vividly portrayed … Continue reading

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