Category Archives: Self-Compassion

Leaping Forward with “Life After Lust”


Today I made two giant leaps forward with my “Life After Lust” manuscript. Click here to learn how my upcoming book is progressing. This book is a resource packed with both practical information and powerful inspiration for those seeking recovery from sexual … Continue reading

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Permission to Rest


As a person in recovery, I find it very hard to give myself the rest and relaxation I need. What comes naturally for me is overcommitment and overachievement. I too often prioritize productivity over caring for myself responsibly. I know I … Continue reading

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Boundaries: The Key to Love


The topic of boundaries is important to both addicts and their partners in recovery. This topic can be confusing and challenging to many. Here is a helpful, simple video about the importance of boundaries. In it Brene Brown shares: “Boundaries … Continue reading

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Learning and Unlearning the Skills of Self-Neglect


In the work I do with sexual addicts I often use the term “self-neglect”. It seems those of us in recovery are experts at neglecting our needs and emotions. When we look back at our childhoods, we see that we … Continue reading

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12 Years Free from Porn: How to Succeed


Today marks 12 years of my freedom from pornography use. If you know someone who struggles or are trapped yourself, I encourage you to read about the 12 lessons I’ve learned and the 12 essential recovery skills I’ve discovered along the … Continue reading

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A Connected Christmas: The Secret to Avoiding Auto-Pilot and Making the Holiday Meaningful


Christmas is almost here. It’s a day of celebration, gratitude, and connection….at least in theory. I desire these ideals yet too often find myself indulgent and disconnected. Vacations and holidays are historically hard for me. So often, self-care slumps, discipline … Continue reading

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Pursuing Peace When the World’s At War


Our world is in a frenzy of fear. Stories splash across our screens of both global and local terrorist attacks. We witness our world at war. Tragedies, in the forms of accidents and health risks, plague us. We witness a … Continue reading

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