The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery


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“She deserves a husband who is trustworthy, both when she is looking and when she’s unaware” (Life After Lust p.40, from the chapter What My Wife is Worth).

Unfortunately, many of us recovering from sex addiction have made past choices that have broken down the trust of those we love most. In active recovery, we learn how to live out a trust-building lifestyle. In my new Life After Lust VLOG episode called The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery, I share some ways that I am working to rebuild trust in my relationship with my wife. For further study, here’s another great video with 8 additional ideas for rebuilding trust.

What ways are you rebuilding trust in your closest relationships?

May we all be willing to embody humility, working hard to be the trustworthy people our partners deserve. They are worth our best efforts.
And so are we.

Please share the vision by sharing this post with others. If you want to restore your relationship impacted by pornography or sex addiction, we at LifeSTAR are here to help.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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Am I Screwing Up My Kids? (Thoughts from a Parent in Recovery)


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The more I learn about the origins of sexual addiction, the more I see how factors in childhood play a significant role. This helps me understand myself as a recovering addict but as a parent this responsibility can be frightening. If you’ve ever wondered, like me, what impact your parenting may have on the future of your children, then check out my recent Life After Lust VLOG entitled “Am I Screwing Up My Kids (Thoughts from a Parent in Recovery).”

If you’ve read my book Life After Lust, you’ve seen that learning to parent well is another essential recovery skill. To learn more about the challenge to engage in proactive and intentional parenting check out the powerful video “Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter” (another chapter in Life After Lust).

May we all be empowered to be better parents as we learn from the mistakes of our parents and our own mistakes as well. There is hope for all of us on this journey, no matter how old our children may be.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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The Road to Recovery: Where Will it Lead You?


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Recovery is about much more than just leaving addiction. It is also about the life you replace your addiction with. Click the link below to watch the newest Life After Lust VLOG episode and think about the beautiful places the recovery lifestyle might take you.

WHERE WILL RECOVERY LEAD YOU?

If you’re willing, take a minute to post about the experiences you have had as a result of your personal recovery journey. 

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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Mastering Emotions in Recovery


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Learning to master our emotions is one of the most important skills of recovery. Too often, it is our mismanagement of difficult emotions that sends us seeking out escape from them…often in all the wrong places. In my recent VLOG about The Courage of Self-Connection, I shared some personal thoughts on managing emotional triggers (click here to watch). I have learned some valuable lessons in this area along the way, yet I am still far from perfect, learning as I go. I invite you to join me on this learning journey. Here is one talk I enjoyed listening to on this very topic, called “Emotional Mastery: The Gifted Wisdom of Unpleasant Feelings.” I invite you to share other resources you’ve found helpful in understanding and responding to the inner emotional landscape.

Join me in learning more about the complex world within. May we all continue to grow in our management and mastery of our own emotions as we continue to recover.

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

 

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Childhood Emotional Neglect & Sex Addiction: What’s the Connection?


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Are you aware of the connection between childhood emotional neglect (CEN) and sex addiction? In my recent interview with Dr Jonice Webb, author of Running On Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect I explained how the two are closely linked. Learn about this extremely important and yet under-appreciated component of addiction and the ramifications for recovery in the newly published article

What No One Ever Told You About Sex Addiction.

If you are impacted by this article I encourage you to share it with others. If you struggle with CEN or sex addiction, there is hope. There is no time like the present to begin your recovery from life’s hurts.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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Rising from the Pit of Sexual Addiction


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Have you found yourself failing in the fight to overcome sexual addiction? If so, I invite you to reconnect with your motivation by reading my newly published Covenant Eyes article entitled Called to Rise: Overcoming Sexual Addiction. Based on the powerful scene from the movie The Dark Knight Rises, this chapter examines why sexual addiction recovery is so difficult and how someone can achieve this seemingly impossible act. As you’ll learn, recovery from sexual addiction is very difficult but very possible. Those of us who’ve scaled the walls of this pit are calling you to join our ranks.

May we all have the courage to rise up and live out life after lust.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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New Release: Finding Peace Trauma Workbook (.99 Cents Through FRIDAY)


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Today a powerful resource was published on Amazon called Finding Peace: A Workbook on Healing from Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse by Troy Love, LCSW. I had the privilege of endorsing this book so I can vouch for how good it is. Troy has poured his expertise and heart into this workbook and I am certain that countless people will benefit as a result. After reading Finding Peace, I added it to our LifeSTAR treatment program and look forward to using it with my clients. Check out this new workbook and share it with others.

GET YOUR COPY BY FRIDAY WHILE IT IS ONLY 99 CENTS….You won’t regret it!

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

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