Mastery in Recovery


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In my upcoming book “Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery” I emphasize the importance of mastery in recovery. For those seeking long-term change, I invite you to listen to the following podcast on “Mastering the Plateau” by Patrick Dean, MA. This lesson contains gems of wisdom that will help those in recovery persist in the practices that lead to lasting change. Enjoy!

*For announcements about the release date of “Life After Lust”, please follow this blog.

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Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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Happy Thanksgiving (Recovery Resources for the Holidays)


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The holidays can be a challenging season for recovering sex addicts and their partners. For those looking for helpful resources, I highly recommend the article entitled “Holiday Recipes for Relapse & Recovery” (soon to be available in my upcoming book “Life After Lust“). For recovering sex addicts seeking additional support, there are Sexaholics Anonymous phone meetings and online recovery meetings as well.

It is our hope that those seeking additional support would find it this holiday season.

Happy Thanksgiving from LifeSTAR of the Central Valley!

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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Please Vote for Your Favorite Book Cover (Forest Benedict’s Upcoming Book)


 

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I am excited to share some possible covers for my upcoming book “Life After Lust”! Would you please take a minute to browse through the following 5 images and comment below on which one is your favorite and what you like about it?

Also,  which cover (or combination of covers) would be the best fit for my intended audience –  male and female sex & pornography addicts of all (or no) religious backgrounds?

Also, please let me know if you prefer the subtitle on these covers or this one: “Stories & Strategies for Sex & Porn Addiction Recovery”.

The more people who vote, the better, so please share this post with others.

Thank you for your feedback and for sharing this exciting news!

For updates on my book release, I invite you to follow me on this blog, on Facebook and on Twitter.

Gratefully,

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C, LifeSTAR of the Central Valley

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Connected Sex: A Paradigm Shift for the Sexually Addicted


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Sex is on my mind a lot these days. The reason for this is I’m preparing to teach a Human Sexuality class at Fresno State this weekend. I look forward to my time with future therapists, as we explore how sex can go both wrong and right.

It may go without saying but sex is an important topic in sexual addiction recovery. As a sexual addiction therapist, I tell my clients that successful recovery necessitates a different view of sexuality. The old perspective on sex must be thrown away and replaced with a new one. Rather than using sex as a numbing agent, sex must become a connecting agent. Still, this transition in thinking and practice is difficult. It requires learning, direction, and work.

In her video on Sex & Intimacy (below), Sue Johnson superbly explains the dynamics of connected and disconnected sex. I believe many sexual addicts experience “sealed off sex”, which she describes as a sexual experience that is lacking emotional intimacy, is solely sensation focused, and leaves individuals feeling lonely. In recovery, we have the opportunity to see sex in an entirely new way. In recovery, we can learn to experience sex as the “potent bonding activity” it is meant to be. This usually requires the guidance of a trained professional and a plethora of patience. But as a couple does the hard work of recovery, experiences healing, and is willing to humbly learn new ways of relating, connected sex can become a wonderful reality.

May we all be willing to challenge and change our distorted views of sex, learning to experience a more fulfilling, connected, and healthy sexuality.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

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Talking to Teens About Pornography (YouthSTAR Parent Night)


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Tonight I have the privilege of leading another YouthSTAR Parent Night for families in our program. I look forward to sharing with them a clip from the following video called “What Teens Wish Their Parents Knew When Addressing the Issue of Pornography” (see below). This is an excellent presentation by our friend Clay Olsen from Fight the New Drug. Tonight’s focus will be on points #4 (they wish you knew that you should talk to them about it) and #5 (they wish they knew that you are part of the solution). Please take a few minutes to watch this important video and share it with all parents.

If you have a teenager struggling with a pornography addiction, call us to learn more about our YouthSTAR program.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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“Life After Lust” – A Motivating Manual for Sexual Addicts in Recovery (Coming Soon)


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Recovery from sexual addiction is very hard but very possible. Those who feel caught in the cycle of addiction often have difficulty believing in a way out, let alone knowing what it is. Fortunately, many sexual addicts have found their way to freedom; there truly is life after lust. I am excited to announce a new resource soon to be published that will provide  powerful strategies and motivating stories for those seeking recovery from sexual addiction.

My first book is soon to be published, entitled “Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies to Strengthen Sexual Addicts in Recovery“. This book is a practical and inspiring guide for sexual addicts seeking change. It is a collection of stories and articles aimed at challenging, equipping, and energizing all readers. In this book, I share deeper details about my personal recovery journey. The book is also packed with recommendations for fueling successful recovery.

I look forward to sharing this new resource with you soon. I believe this book will be a life-changing catalyst for long-term change.

Stay tuned for upcoming announcements about publication date and availability.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

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Journaling: A Tool for Transformation


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I am grateful to share this beautiful and helpful description of the power of journaling, presented by Robin Sharma. Journaling is a simple yet profoundly important tool for those in recovery. I hope this inspires you to invest the time in practicing this incredible self-connection tool.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

 

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