Talking to Teens About Pornography (YouthSTAR Parent Night)


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Tonight I have the privilege of leading another YouthSTAR Parent Night for families in our program. I look forward to sharing with them a clip from the following video called “What Teens Wish Their Parents Knew When Addressing the Issue of Pornography” (see below). This is an excellent presentation by our friend Clay Olsen from Fight the New Drug. Tonight’s focus will be on points #4 (they wish you knew that you should talk to them about it) and #5 (they wish they knew that you are part of the solution). Please take a few minutes to watch this important video and share it with all parents.

If you have a teenager struggling with a pornography addiction, call us to learn more about our YouthSTAR program.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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“Life After Lust” – A Motivating Manual for Sexual Addicts in Recovery (Coming Soon)


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Recovery from sexual addiction is very hard but very possible. Those who feel caught in the cycle of addiction often have difficulty believing in a way out, let alone knowing what it is. Fortunately, many sexual addicts have found their way to freedom; there truly is life after lust. I am excited to announce a new resource soon to be published that will provide  powerful strategies and motivating stories for those seeking recovery from sexual addiction.

My first book is soon to be published, entitled “Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies to Strengthen Sexual Addicts in Recovery“. This book is a practical and inspiring guide for sexual addicts seeking change. It is a collection of stories and articles aimed at challenging, equipping, and energizing all readers. In this book, I share deeper details about my personal recovery journey. The book is also packed with recommendations for fueling successful recovery.

I look forward to sharing this new resource with you soon. I believe this book will be a life-changing catalyst for long-term change.

Stay tuned for upcoming announcements about publication date and availability.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

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Journaling: A Tool for Transformation


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I am grateful to share this beautiful and helpful description of the power of journaling, presented by Robin Sharma. Journaling is a simple yet profoundly important tool for those in recovery. I hope this inspires you to invest the time in practicing this incredible self-connection tool.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

 

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Elizabeth Smart Speaks About Pornography’s Role In Her Abduction (Video)


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A week ago, our friends at Fight the New Drug released a newsworthy article and video (below) about Elizabeth Smart. In the video, Elizabeth shared her story, recalling how pornography made her “living hell worse”. I share this with our readers for 2 reasons. First, to show another real-life example of the negative impact of pornography. Second, to share the hope that shines out of a dark story. Elizabeth shared, “I have gone on to become an advocate for abuse prevention and an advocate against pornography.” Elizabeth is a brave example on how a person can turn their pain into purpose.

May we all do the same.

*Please note, the following video has some disturbing content

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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Female Sexual Addiction Groups (Online Tonight & Local Therapy Groups)


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Rob Weiss, LCSW is hosting an online discussion group on the topic of “Women & Sexual Addiction” tonight at 6pm (PST) at InTheRooms.com, an online recovery group site. Sharing his view on this topic he writes:

“Sometimes people think sex addiction is a males-only issue. However, that is not the case. Women are just as susceptible as men to the escapist neurochemical rush created by compulsive sexual fantasies and behaviors. Unfortunately, female sex addicts are much less likely to self-identify as being sexually addicted and to seek treatment for the disorder.

Most likely, this reticence is caused by socio-cultural attitudes toward gender and sexuality. Essentially, men with out of control sex lives are often viewed by their peers as studs, ladies men, and players. Meanwhile, women engaging in the same behaviors may be called whores, sluts, homewreckers, and all sorts of other not very nice names. Thus, male sex addicts tend to be less ashamed about and more willing to discuss their sexual compulsivity. Sometimes they’re actually quite proud of their sexual adventuring, despite the repeated and continually escalating negative consequences they’ve experienced. Conversely, female sex addicts tend to downplay their sexual behaviors. If pressed, they’ll typically talk about how they’re having relationship problems.”

These online groups are not therapy groups but can be helpful resources for those seeking information and support. Also, I cannot vouch for the content or language of any individual meeting.

For females seeking help in this area, we at LifeSTAR of the Central Valley provide specialized treatment to both female and male sexual addicts of all ages (in separate programs). We have an adult treatment program for female sexual addicts and are soon starting a YouthSTAR program for sexually addicted teenage girls. Both groups are led by Karen Huckaby, a therapist who is passionate about helping women struggling in these areas. Please contact us for more information. There is hope.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

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“Instructions for a Bad Day” -A Call to Hope and Perseverance


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Need inspiration and hope today? Take 5.5 minutes to watch this video. Be encouraged. Then share this with someone else who needs it.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

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Out of Our Pain Comes Our Purpose


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Over a decade ago I checked into a treatment program hoping to heal from a serious sexual addiction. A transformed life was Plan A. Plan B was a secret plot to escape to Las Vegas and drown myself in addictive self-destruction. My contingency plan never materialized because Plan A became my life’s mission. Ironically, my recovery path led me back to Las Vegas last weekend. I was not there to indulge an addiction but to train therapists to treat those who do. This is one of many mind-blowing miracles I’ve savored in my recovery. Out of my past pain has come my present purpose. This is the hope of healing.

When we are deep in addiction and trauma, we are blind to future hope. We cannot imagine living in the light when we feel lost in the night. It takes a bold imagination to take steps forward in recovery when we can’t predict where that path will take us.

I cannot tell you where your recovery path will take you but I can promise you one thing: Out of your pain will come your purpose. Healing is about far more than just managing triggers, but about stepping into a meaningful life. When we are no longer handcuffed by our impulses, we are free to love and live fully. This is my experience. I believe it can be yours as well.

Are you willing to do the deep and difficult work of recovery today, holding tightly to the belief that you will benefit tomorrow?  

Are you willing to postpone present pleasure and persevere through present pain for the promise of future satisfaction? 

If you answer “yes” then I welcome you to a courageous journey of faith. Here we begin to believe in the unseen. We imagine a different future while persistently pursuing it. When our purposeful future find us, we will truly see that we’ve sacrificed nothing and gained everything. We wrestled for our recovery and it was worth it. We were healed for a purpose.

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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