Tag Archives: connection

Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter


*This letter was originally posted on Protect Young Minds for Father’s Day of 2015. Please share this powerful piece with all fathers as we prepare to celebrate our essential role in the lives of our children. Happy Father’s Day! Dear … Continue reading

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Am I Codependent or Connected?


Since sexual addiction is an intimacy disorder, successful recovery necessitates learning to connect with oneself and others. Despite enormous difficulties, I have seen seemingly ruined relationships repaired. It is possible for many, even after betrayal, but it requires lots of work … Continue reading

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A Connected Christmas: The Secret to Avoiding Auto-Pilot and Making the Holiday Meaningful


Christmas is almost here. It’s a day of celebration, gratitude, and connection….at least in theory. I desire these ideals yet too often find myself indulgent and disconnected. Vacations and holidays are historically hard for me. So often, self-care slumps, discipline … Continue reading

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Pursuing Peace When the World’s At War


Our world is in a frenzy of fear. Stories splash across our screens of both global and local terrorist attacks. We witness our world at war. Tragedies, in the forms of accidents and health risks, plague us. We witness a … Continue reading

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The Opposite of Addiction


If you’ve followed this blog for long, you’ve likely noticed that Connection is a repeated theme. This video helps explain why connection is so vital for real recovery. Also, after you watch it, check out the article called “Commentary on … Continue reading

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The Pursuit of Addiction is the Path of Distrust


It is becoming clearer to me that the pursuit of addiction is the path of distrust. In moments of stress or distress, any numbing or self-destructive response is rooted in the belief that “I am unsafe and do not trust … Continue reading

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From Addiction to Connection: Radio Interview with “Carol the Coach” & Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C


Last night I had the privilege of being interviewed on live radio by “Carol the Coach“. Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, PCC, CSAT is a psychotherapist who hosts the informative show called “Sexual Addiction: Strength/Hope/Recovery“. Carol invited me to join her … Continue reading

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