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How to Know if a Sex Addict is Really in Recovery (A Podcast Interview)


Partners of sex addicts are on heart-breaking and hard journey. One of the many challenges they face is seeking emotional safety within their relationship, which is a difficult skill to master. In many cases, an addict will make promises of … Continue reading

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How I Made History Today (A Resource for Partners)


Today I enjoyed the privilege of being interviewed on the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. As Anne introduced me, she shared that I was their first male guest in the history of the podcast, an honor I do not take lightly. Our … Continue reading

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The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery


“She deserves a husband who is trustworthy, both when she is looking and when she’s unaware” (Life After Lust p.40, from the chapter What My Wife is Worth). Unfortunately, many of us recovering from sex addiction have made past choices that have … Continue reading

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New Release: Finding Peace Trauma Workbook (.99 Cents Through FRIDAY)


Today a powerful resource was published on Amazon called Finding Peace: A Workbook on Healing from Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse by Troy Love, LCSW. I had the privilege of endorsing this book so I can vouch for … Continue reading

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Stories of Trauma & Sex Addiction – 2 Podcasts


Often those of us in recovery have survived a trauma-filled past. Whether it’s in the form of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, our past pains have a long-term impact on our lives and relationships (click here for more info). This … Continue reading

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Holiday Recipes for Relapse & Recovery (Revised)


The holidays can feel like a minefield for those in recovery. More-so than other times of the year, disastrous dynamics go hand-in-hand with the celebrations of the season. For this noteworthy reason, partners and addicts alike can benefit from preparing … Continue reading

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The Pain of Being “Pushed”: The Relational Trauma of Partners


//www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/Iuv__-nyO1M?rel=0 Have you seen this highly popular video of the man pushing his girlfriend off a cliff? The video begins with a woman preparing herself mentally for her ominous cliff jump, then repeatedly deciding not to take the plunge. It … Continue reading

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