Tag Archives: trauma

The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery


“She deserves a husband who is trustworthy, both when she is looking and when she’s unaware” (Life After Lust p.40, from the chapter What My Wife is Worth). Unfortunately, many of us recovering from sex addiction have made past choices that have … Continue reading

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New Release: Finding Peace Trauma Workbook (.99 Cents Through FRIDAY)


Today a powerful resource was published on Amazon called Finding Peace: A Workbook on Healing from Loss, Neglect, Rejection, Abandonment, Betrayal, and Abuse by Troy Love, LCSW. I had the privilege of endorsing this book so I can vouch for … Continue reading

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Stories of Trauma & Sex Addiction – 2 Podcasts


Often those of us in recovery have survived a trauma-filled past. Whether it’s in the form of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, our past pains have a long-term impact on our lives and relationships (click here for more info). This … Continue reading

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Holiday Recipes for Relapse & Recovery (Revised)


The holidays can feel like a minefield for those in recovery. More-so than other times of the year, disastrous dynamics go hand-in-hand with the celebrations of the season. For this noteworthy reason, partners and addicts alike can benefit from preparing … Continue reading

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The Pain of Being “Pushed”: The Relational Trauma of Partners


//www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/Iuv__-nyO1M?rel=0 Have you seen this highly popular video of the man pushing his girlfriend off a cliff? The video begins with a woman preparing herself mentally for her ominous cliff jump, then repeatedly deciding not to take the plunge. It … Continue reading

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Are We Having Fun Yet?


Fun is an essential part of life, yet something many addicts have difficulty practicing. Addicts “demonstrate an almost complete inability to relax and enjoy themselves” (Flores, 2004), so learning how to have fun without their “drug” of choice is a … Continue reading

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Bashing…or Venting? A Spouse Needs Support But When Does Venting Become Toxic?


Supportive Friendships When I became engaged to be married, a dear friend gave me some wise advice. She said that “the best thing you can do for your marriage is to have a good best friend who is not your … Continue reading

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