Category Archives: Change

3 Common Misconceptions About Sex Addiction Treatment


Over the past few years as I have seen men and women come and go from the Lifestar program, I have heard a number of similar mindsets echoed from both those that stay, experience growth and success and ultimately graduate, … Continue reading

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Beware of the Point of No Return


Triggers are a consequence of addiction. Triggers include any kind of stimulus that activates an urge to act out, they include things like: getting stressed out, being by yourself, watching love scenes in a movie, and even the mere touch … Continue reading

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An Open Letter To Those Currently In Recovery


Dear Human, I hear you might be going through a rough patch right now. Perhaps that’s an understatement. You might have lost your job. You might be caring for a loved one. You might be caring for many tiny humans. … Continue reading

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Connections in Recovery


“Your connections to all the things around you literally define who you are.” – Aaron D. O’Connell, Physicist, Creator of the first Quantum Machine Connection is the key to both overcoming addiction and establishing trustworthy relationships. One cannot overcome pornography … Continue reading

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The Pursuit of Happiness


“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson “The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one has to do.” – James M. Barrie … Continue reading

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The Heart of the Matter


“Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain but for the heart to conquer it.” — Rabindranath Tagore Life can be wonderful, grand, and exciting – at least, at times.  But those moments are more the exception than … Continue reading

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My Last LifeSTAR Blog Post


Dear Readers, Due to some recent changes I will no longer be managing this blog (click here for the full story). This site will also continue to be in capable hands and you will continue receiving relevant recovery related content. … Continue reading

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Repeat This and Recover


PLEASE SHARE IF YOU AGREE –Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this … Continue reading

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The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery


“She deserves a husband who is trustworthy, both when she is looking and when she’s unaware” (Life After Lust p.40, from the chapter What My Wife is Worth). Unfortunately, many of us recovering from sex addiction have made past choices that have … Continue reading

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Please Vote for Your Favorite Book Cover (Forest Benedict’s Upcoming Book)


  I am excited to share some possible covers for my upcoming book “Life After Lust”! Would you please take a minute to browse through the following 5 images and comment below on which one is your favorite and what you like … Continue reading

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