I hear you might be going through a rough patch right now. Perhaps that’s an understatement.
You might have lost your job.
You might be caring for a loved one.
You might be caring for many tiny humans.
You might be afraid for your own health, or those close to you.
You might be lonely. Or hungry. Or both.
You might be desperately looking for work.
You might be enjoying the time off.
You might be feeling a certain sense of discontent.
But I also hear you’re working through your recovery as well. Hoo boy, that’s another layer to that rough patch I mentioned earlier. There happens to be a soft spot in my heart for those in active recovery, especially those healing from a sexual addiction or those dealing with the hurt of someone who is. It is so difficult.
But it can also be beautiful. If you’ve been in recovery for a while, you’ve probably learned the importance of specific daily self-care (in the LifeSTAR program, we call these Dailies). You might have been working toward increasing your Dailies score, and then COVID-19 hit. Oh man, what an imperative time to know how to care for yourself! I hope you really buckle down (in a non-pressured way) during this time and keep making sure you keep doing the things that keep you healthy and grounded, so you can be healthy for those around you.
If you haven’t been doing as well as you hoped during this time of quarantining, you might also be dealing with shame. Shame is a sneaky foe who will show up to judge your actions and belittle you at any chance if you aren’t aware of its activity in your life. It’s your job to make sure you have a kind truthful mantra about yourself to help combat shame. Something like, “I love and accept myself just the way I am”, “I’m doing my best”, or “This too shall pass”.
Also, dear human, many folks are currently experiencing old trauma triggers resurfacing, like past feelings of abandonment, trauma, or abuse. If this has been true for you, I hope you’re able to kindly attune to that pain and give careful attention to it. If you don’t know where to start, try this:
- Count to four while taking a deep breath in through your nose.
- Count to four while letting the breath out slowly through your mouth.
- Continue for a minute or so.
Your body and mind need to be on the same page, and conscious breathing helps keep your body grounded, and your mind from spinning out.
Try it, you’re worth it.
Human, my heart goes out to you. With you being in recovery, you might be having a bit harder time than most right now, and that’s alright. I know firsthand it doesn’t feel alright, but know that there are many more in recovery as well who are experiencing similar things. You are loved, you are worth all kindness and good.
Love from your fellow recovering human,
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