Category Archives: Self-Compassion

Boundaries: The Key to Love


The topic of boundaries is important to both addicts and their partners in recovery. This topic can be confusing and challenging to many. Here is a helpful, simple video about the importance of boundaries. In it Brene Brown shares: “Boundaries … Continue reading

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Learning and Unlearning the Skills of Self-Neglect


In the work I do with sexual addicts I often use the term “self-neglect”. It seems those of us in recovery are experts at neglecting our needs and emotions. When we look back at our childhoods, we see that we … Continue reading

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12 Years Free from Porn: How to Succeed


Today marks 12 years of my freedom from pornography use. If you know someone who struggles or are trapped yourself, I encourage you to read about the 12 lessons I’ve learned and the 12 essential recovery skills I’ve discovered along the … Continue reading

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A Connected Christmas: The Secret to Avoiding Auto-Pilot and Making the Holiday Meaningful


Christmas is almost here. It’s a day of celebration, gratitude, and connection….at least in theory. I desire these ideals yet too often find myself indulgent and disconnected. Vacations and holidays are historically hard for me. So often, self-care slumps, discipline … Continue reading

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Pursuing Peace When the World’s At War


Our world is in a frenzy of fear. Stories splash across our screens of both global and local terrorist attacks. We witness our world at war. Tragedies, in the forms of accidents and health risks, plague us. We witness a … Continue reading

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The Neuroscience of Self-Care: Stephen Kuhn Interviews Forest Benedict, SATP-C


“What’s the one piece of advice you would give to someone struggling with porn addiction?” This was the question posed by Stephen Kuhn, author of “10 Lies Men Believe About Porn” when he interviewed me awhile back. My answer may … Continue reading

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From Addiction to Connection: Radio Interview with “Carol the Coach” & Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C


Last night I had the privilege of being interviewed on live radio by “Carol the Coach“. Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, PCC, CSAT is a psychotherapist who hosts the informative show called “Sexual Addiction: Strength/Hope/Recovery“. Carol invited me to join her … Continue reading

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My Path Out of Porn Addiction: A Therapist’s Journey


When I recently wrote about my promotion to Clinical Director and the career journey that led me to this work I love to do, I omitted a significant piece of my history. We all have a back-story. It is ours … Continue reading

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“10 Steps to Go a Year Free of Porn and Masturbation” on XXXChurch Website


I wanted to share with our readers about my recent contribution to a new XXXChurch article called “10 Steps to Go a Year Free of Porn and Masturbation“. It provides some great insights for those wanting to make this strong … Continue reading

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Preventing Impending Relapse: 6 Immediate Interventions


One of the fundamental skills for those in recovery is learning to put on the brakes when sliding down a slippery slope into relapse. When tiredness triggers, emotions internally eat away, and circumstances crowd their mind with maddening thoughts, what … Continue reading

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