Forest’s Radio Interview Today


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After writing my recent article in response to Hustler’s new store in my city, I have the opportunity to share my perspective on the Trevor Carey radio show (96.7 FM) today at 4:30pm. This will be my second interview on this show (click here to listen to the first one) and I am grateful for the opportunity. Also, look for an updated version of my Hefner/Hustler article in the Fresno Bee very soon.

All of these opportunities are chances to for me to live in alignment. May we all live our lives courageously aligned with our highest values.

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!
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Hustler, Hefner, & Ethical Sex in Recovery


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Today I finished writing an important piece called The Recovering Addict’s Guide to Ethical Sex: Hefner and Hustler Had it Half Right. This article invites readers to live in alignment with their sexual and moral values and to stand against the porn-industry. In it, I refer to local Fresno news sharing the following:

“This Saturday, a porn-producing pioneer is visiting our fine city of Fresno for Hustler’s “grand opening” event. Meeting Larry Flynt in person with my “Porn Kills Love” T-shirt and picket sign would absolutely align with my values. But this time I am choosing a different approach. My protest will come through my promotion of love on that day. My plan Saturday is to man a LifeSTAR booth at Fresno’s Recovery Summit, sharing the hopeful message of freedom from sex addiction and inviting others to join me in aligned living, as we pursue together the purposeful path of Life After Lust.”

If you live locally, it is our hope that we’ll cross paths with you at the upcoming Recovery Summit this Saturday. Whether you live near or far, I hope you’ll take a few minutes to read my Ethical Sex article.

As we grow in our recovery, may we all learn to live in alignment with our most important values. It will always be worth it.

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

 

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What My Partner is Worth


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Essential Mindset #13 in Life After Lust (2017). From the chapter “What My Wife is Worth.”

Share if you agree.

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Angry Birds & Killer Bees (How to Talk to Children About Sex)


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Talking to kids about sex is an essential, yet difficult task for all parents. What complicates this challenge further is the advancement of technology and the early exposure to pornography that is rampant in our day and age.

Last year I had the privilege of interviewing Dr Todd Bowman, therapist and author of Angry Birds, Killer Bees: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, addressing this timely topic. This valuable interview is now a part of the SATP certification program I teach in and I am privileged to share it publicly today for the first time. Whether you are a parent yourself or plan to be, you’ll gain greatly from Dr Bowman’s expertise with this topic. I invite you to share this interview and Dr Bowman’s much-needed book with others.

Here’s the interview:

Please share with important message with others. For additional resources for parents click here.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

 

 

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Repeat This and Recover


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The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery


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“She deserves a husband who is trustworthy, both when she is looking and when she’s unaware” (Life After Lust p.40, from the chapter What My Wife is Worth).

Unfortunately, many of us recovering from sex addiction have made past choices that have broken down the trust of those we love most. In active recovery, we learn how to live out a trust-building lifestyle. In my new Life After Lust VLOG episode called The Humbling Road to Rebuilding Trust in Recovery, I share some ways that I am working to rebuild trust in my relationship with my wife. For further study, here’s another great video with 8 additional ideas for rebuilding trust.

What ways are you rebuilding trust in your closest relationships?

May we all be willing to embody humility, working hard to be the trustworthy people our partners deserve. They are worth our best efforts.
And so are we.

Please share the vision by sharing this post with others. If you want to restore your relationship impacted by pornography or sex addiction, we at LifeSTAR are here to help.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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Am I Screwing Up My Kids? (Thoughts from a Parent in Recovery)


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The more I learn about the origins of sexual addiction, the more I see how factors in childhood play a significant role. This helps me understand myself as a recovering addict but as a parent this responsibility can be frightening. If you’ve ever wondered, like me, what impact your parenting may have on the future of your children, then check out my recent Life After Lust VLOG entitled “Am I Screwing Up My Kids (Thoughts from a Parent in Recovery).”

If you’ve read my book Life After Lust, you’ve seen that learning to parent well is another essential recovery skill. To learn more about the challenge to engage in proactive and intentional parenting check out the powerful video “Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter” (another chapter in Life After Lust).

May we all be empowered to be better parents as we learn from the mistakes of our parents and our own mistakes as well. There is hope for all of us on this journey, no matter how old our children may be.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and author of Life After Lust. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

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