Are We Having Fun Yet?


Fun is an essential part of life, yet something many addicts have difficulty practicing. Addicts “demonstrate an almost complete inability to relax and enjoy themselves” (Flores, 2004), so learning how to have fun without their “drug” of choice is a significant challenge of recovery.

In successful long-term recovery, learning how to have fun is non-negotiable. In the Plan of Action used in our LifeSTAR program, we wrote:

“Play is needed for your brain to relax. It puts balance and perspective in life. Some adults have great difficulty playing. They may feel too self-conscious, experience guilt when they are not being “productive” or worry about how they are perceived. But neuroscience research shows that the brain needs play to heal from both addiction and trauma.”

With this in mind, we prescribe fun as a regular habit.

The above Switchfoot video shows many forms of fun – did you see them? We recommend you create space in your life for all of these forms of fun:

Recreation

Enjoying nature

Solitude & Inspiration

Play

Silliness

Family fun

Music

Song & dance

Investing in healthy friendships

Travel

Adventure

Laughter

It is our hope that as you connect with the part of you that enjoys childlike fun, you will find the hard times in life more bearable, appreciating the joy and freedom of non-addictive living.

HAVE FUN!

 

-By Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, MFT Intern

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About fbenedict

Forest Benedict is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Sexual Addiction Treatment Provider (SATP). Forest loves the work he does as the Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley and the Program Manager/Teacher in the SATP program at Mid-America Nazarene University. He writes numerous articles on the LifeSTAR of the Central Valley blog (https://lifestarcentralvalley.wordpress.com/) and also on his personal blog (http://forestbenedict.com/). He created the Life After Lust VLOG on Youtube, sharing insights about recovery from sexual addiction. Forest also writes and speaks publicly about protecting children from pornography.
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